Use this checklist to assess, maintain, and nurture meaningful connections in all areas of your life—whether it’s romantic relationships, friendships, or family dynamics. Use this checklist as a guide to building trust, respect, and communication.?
? You feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment.
Both people listen actively without interrupting.
Disagreements are handled calmly and respectfully, not with yelling or blame.
You ask for and give clarification when misunderstandings arise.
You both make time for regular, honest conversations.
? You can rely on the other person to keep their promises.
Both people are honest, even about difficult topics.
You don’t feel the need to "check up" on the other person (e.g., their phone, actions).
You feel secure in the relationship without constant reassurance.
You trust that the other person has your best interests at heart.
? Your boundaries are honored without guilt, pushback, or invalidation.
Both people respect each other’s opinions, even if they differ.
You celebrate each other’s individuality and differences.
Criticism is constructive, not personal or belittling.
Your time, energy, and priorities are valued.
? You both set clear boundaries about personal space, time, and comfort levels.
Saying “no” is accepted without guilt or pressure.
Boundaries are mutually understood and respected.
Both people discuss and agree on what’s acceptable in the relationship (e.g., social interactions, expectations).
You feel safe to bring up new boundaries as the relationship evolves.
? The other person is there for you during tough times and celebrates your successes.
They encourage you to pursue your personal goals and dreams.
You feel uplifted and energized after spending time together.
Both people cheer each other on without jealousy or competition.
You can rely on them for emotional and practical support when needed.
? Responsibilities and decision-making are shared fairly.
Neither person dominates or controls the relationship.
Both people’s needs are given equal importance.
Compromises are made without resentment.
You both feel equally valued in the relationship.
? You feel safe expressing your feelings without fear of retaliation or ridicule.
Conflicts are resolved without insults, manipulation, or hostility.
Both people are accountable for their actions and apologize when necessary.
You don’t feel judged for your vulnerabilities or mistakes.
The relationship feels like a “safe space” where you can be yourself.
? You genuinely enjoy spending time together.
Both people make an effort to keep the relationship engaging and fresh.
Laughter and playfulness are regular parts of your interactions.
You share common interests but also have space for individual hobbies.
You create and celebrate shared experiences, like trips or special traditions.
? Disagreements are seen as opportunities to grow, not threats to the relationship.
You focus on solving problems together rather than "winning" arguments.
Both people take responsibility for their actions and words during conflicts.
You’re able to forgive and move forward after resolving an issue.
You avoid passive-aggressive behavior, stonewalling, or holding grudges.
? Both people encourage and support each other’s personal development.
You feel free to pursue your passions, friendships, and goals outside the relationship.
Constructive feedback is shared to help each other improve.
You inspire each other to be the best versions of yourselves.
The relationship evolves in positive ways as both people grow.
While the checklist focuses on healthy dynamics, watch for these red flags:
- Control: One person dominates decision-making or limits the other’s freedom.
- Dishonesty: Lies, secrecy, or hiding important information.
- Lack of Respect: Ignoring boundaries, insults, or dismissive behavior.
- Emotional Manipulation: Using guilt, fear, or threats to control the relationship.
- Insecurity: Constant jealousy, accusations, or distrust.
Example: “Are we respecting each other’s boundaries? Do I feel supported?”
Open Discussion: Share this checklist with the other person to ensure you’re on the same page.
Example: “Let’s talk about how we can improve communication and support each other better.”
Set Goals for Growth: If a category needs work, discuss actionable steps to improve it.